When you are in the early stages of meeting or sleeping with someone, knowing your exact relationship can be difficult. Not that serious, but on the way to more engagement? In a win situation where you both agreed to put your feelings aside? Or is he in a kind of limbo that confuses him a little? If you are confused about your marital status with someone else, you may find yourself in a situation.
A situation is basically an undefined romantic relationship. Unlike a situation with a friend with benefits, a situation may be emotional, but the terms of the relationship and the ultimate goal of the relationship are not defined.
It is important to know the signs of a relationship so that sooner or later you can tell if you are in one. Understanding your status as a relationship can help you build a strong connection.
Here are a few signs that indicate that you might be in a relationship:
You Spend a Lot of Time Together
If you’re wondering if you and your partner are unofficially dating, take a closer look at your time together. Don’t you hang out until 2 a.m. after a last-minute text message that this person invites you to? Do you spend several days and nights together during the week? When you go on a date, the two of you want to spend as much time together as possible and make every effort to plan dates and trips.
“When someone is really interested in you for a long-term relationship, they usually work really hard to make sure you know because they don’t want you to be distracted and look elsewhere,” says Jennifer Verdoli, Ph.D. “We look at how much time we spend with a potential partner to get an idea of whether a real relationship exists.”
You Talk About the Future:
If you’re looking to find out if you’re going on a date, it’s important to pay attention to the content of your conversations, especially when it comes to discussing your future together. Are you both planning ahead to set up times to hang out, inviting each other to events that are months away, or even discussing going on a trip together?
When you date someone, conversations and plans for the future will come by themselves, but when you notice your partner avoids these types of topics, he is vague, planning everything remotely, and refusing something to think about in the past days. Or even in a few hours, you most likely won’t be with that person.
You’ve Met Each Other’s Friends:
When you date someone, it is not uncommon to introduce yourself to your respective circle of friends; however, if you’ve noticed that you haven’t met any of their members and that person is avoiding the topic whenever possible, you are probably not in the dating stage just yet. “The reality is that someone is not taken seriously if they rarely or only when it suits them to visit and not introduce you to friends and family,” says Verdi.
Most of the time, when you go on a date, you want to introduce them to your circle of friends, not just to see what your friends think of your partner, but also to see how they fit in with the other important people in your life.
For example, is this person funny, attractive, and sociable in your circle of friends, or is your partner awkward, aloof, or even uncomfortable?
You Open up to Each Other:
How much do you really know about the person you are with? When you date someone, the two of you want to open up and share personal stories and anecdotes to get to know each other better and bond better to a deeper level. When you’re both emotionally investing in each other by revealing more about who you are as a person, this is a clear sign that you’re dating.
However, if you find that you don’t know much about your partner, beyond the superficial, and feel that he or she is reserved, aloof, or emotionally unavailable to you, then you are not really dating at a distance and choose to put barriers between the two of you rather than trying to build on your connection and bring you closer together.
To Sum Up
If you’re trying to figure out if you and your partner are dating, you can always choose to sit down and have a real conversation about the current state of your relationship. While it may seem scary or intimidating at first, it’s important to act as an advocate for yourself and speak up for yourself about what you would like to have with this person in the future.
Whether you’re looking for something serious or something more casual, recording yourself and engaging in a face-to-face conversation can help manage expectations and prevent potential heartaches along the way.